I finally got in touch with my sister, who lives several states away, and who got me all in a fluff after sending me a cryptic email.
Verdict: After dating him for 2 years, with a wedding date set for November 8th (a month and a half away), my sister’s fiancé says that he does not want kids. This is a deal breaker for her.
i know, its crazy, right?? who in their right mind wants kids??
My sister! whose goal in life is to have children. she loves kids, LOVES them. her 1st marriage produced no offspring & was a fiasco; she met her Swedish-i-love-kids boyfriend online, he moved to the states, they got married, he got a green card and then he was o u t. so that was a bitter disappointment for her. Ever since then she’s been looking for the perfect guy to raise kids with. She starts every 1st date with “i love children and I want to have them, so if you don’t feel the same, let’s just finish our dinner and go our separate ways.”
Enter current (ehrm, former) fiancé, who said YES! I want to have kids too! I love you! kids! kids! kids! and kept saying that until… 4 days ago?
Her “dream is shattered” and she began making plans to kill herself (stating she has no reason for living if she cant have kids) but then she gave up (“I’m just too exhausted. its a harder to go through with than you think”). I told her it wasnt a good solution anyway, since he isn’t the last man on earth and he’s probably impotent (no really, i’m not kidding). IMHO he’s doing her a favor. He has all kinds of health problems and when his liver fails and he can’t get an organ donor and dies, how is she going to pay for those medical bills?
Meanwhile, he’s like “What? you dont want to marry me? Am I just sperm to you?” well… actually…
